Thoughtful post by Dr. John Corvino, pointing out that it doesn’t really matter whether or not queer people were “born this way” – we’re STAYING this way. I happen to agree with him. I tire of the entire debate over whether it’s nature or nurture; it doesn’t fucking matter. I’m not changing and there’s nothing wrong with me, and anyone who can’t accept that isn’t a person I need to deal with.
It’s not possible to get more beautiful than this.
Larry and KC met at an ex-gay camp. Together, they broke free from the camp and today are happily married. The entire beautiful, true love story can be found at Dallasvoice:
So the President’s State of the Union was nice last night, and he threw in a lovely line about how our military now no longer bans “people who love their country based on who they love,” or something to that effect. I’m too lazy to look it up and quote it exactly.
Here’s a boy named Emil.
Any “Glee” fans out there? Of course there are.
I dislike the historical usage of the word “fag.” Anyone should. Nobody should ever use the word as a pejorative, and in a similar vein, I would like for any negative variation of the phrase “that’s so gay” to disappear forever. But I’m not, and never have been, the type who thinks that telling people “SHHH! DON’T SAY THAT WORD” counts as a way of combating hatred. It’s a nice gesture, but being a pedant about a single word is ultimately going to do as much to combat hateful attitudes as joining a Facebook group will do to stop genocide.
My point, ’cause I don’t feel like writing an essay, is this: Context matters. A lot. In fact, it’s everything.
Can you figure out what I mean by that statement? It’s not so much that I think a subculture can “reclaim” a word from its terrible historical place in the lexicon if enough people within the culture throw it around casually, it’s that I think people should always use their brains. That’s all. “Fag” will never be the language of polite society even if you use it as a term of endearment (and why can’t you? Remember: context and intent are everything), but those seeking to combat hatred need to do more than just try and erase a word. Prohibition didn’t work with booze, it doesn’t work with pot, and it won’t work with the English language, either.